Virginia Satir
(*26. Juni 1916, Neillsville, Wisconsin - † 10. September 1988, Kalifornien)
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“Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference” 

- 1986 meeting of 600 Los Angeles-area psychologists, psychiatrists and other mental health professionals.

I am me - My declaration of self-esteem 

I am me.
In all the world, there is no one exactly like me.
There are persons who have some parts like me, but no one adds up exactly like me.
Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone choose it.
I own everything about me
My body including everything it does;
My mind including all its thoughts and ideas;
My eyes including the images of all they behold;
My feelings whatever they may be…
anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement
My Mouth and all the words that come out of it
polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect;
My Voice loud or soft.
And all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me I can become intimately acquainted with me.
By doing so I can love me and be friendly with me in all parts.
I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,
and other aspects that I do not know.
But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,
I can courageously and hopefully, look for solutions to the puzzles
and for ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think
and feel at a given moment in time is me.
This is authentic and represents where I am in that moment in time.
When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how
I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting.
I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting,
And invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do.
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,
and to make sense and order out of the world of people
and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.
I am me and I am okay
Ich bin ich und nirgendwo gibt es jemanden, der genauso ist wie ich...

Wie ich dir begegnen möchte (Virginia Satir)

Ich möchte Dich lieben,
ohne Dich einzuengen.

Ich möchte Dich wertschätzen,
ohne Dich zu bewerten.

Ich möchte Dich ernst nehmen,
ohne Dich auf etwas festzulegen.

Ich möchte zu Dir kommen,
ohne mich Dir aufzudrängen.

Ich möchte Dich einladen,
ohne Forderungen an Dich zu stellen.

Ich möchte Dir etwas schenken,
ohne Erwartungen daran zu knüpfen.

Ich möchte von Dir Abschied nehmen,
ohne Wesentliches versäumt zu haben.

Ich möchte Dir meine Gefühle mitteilen,
ohne Dich für sie verantwortlich zu machen.

Ich möchte Dich informieren,
ohne Dich zu belehren.

Ich möchte Dir helfen,
ohne Dich zu beleidigen.

Ich möchte mich um Dich kümmern,
ohne Dich ändern zu wollen.

Ich möchte mich an Dir freuen
- so wie Du bist.

Wenn ich von Dir das Gleiche
bekommen kann,
dann können wir uns wirklich begegnen
und uns gegenseitig bereichern.